Collars and Cwtches
May 2012
130 posts
30 Days of Kink: Day 19
30 Days of Kink gives me the jeebies big time, and I can’t/won’t do it. Still, I like to read (some!) others’ responses. Mostly looking for stuff like this. It’s little, but it’s huge. And that’s nice. I needed that. Self-evidently awesome 100% goodthings do happen.
Any unexpected ways kink has improved your life? If so, what are they?
The main thing has been discovering that I’m not the only one with the desires that I have. It’s a good feeling knowing that even if I’m a freak, at least there’s a bunch of other freaks just like me. :P
“Do I contradict myself?
Very well then I contradict myself,
(I am large, I contain multitudes.)” —Walt Whitman
Very well then I contradict myself,
(I am large, I contain multitudes.)” —Walt Whitman
They call me Mister Mercurial: The Difference Between SM and Abuse →
mrchristiangrey.tumblr.com
The most basic difference between
S/M and abuse is Consent.
It is not consent if…
•You did not expressly give consent.
•You are afraid to say no.
•You say yes to avoid conflict.
•You say yes to avoid consequences
(i.e. losing a job, losing your home,
being outed).
S/M is…
•Always consensual.
•Done with respect for limits.
•Enjoyed by all partners.
•Fun, erotic, and loving.
•Done with an understanding of
trust.
•Never done with the intent to
harm or damage.
Just because you consent to play
does not mean you
consent to everything.